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What Are You Willing To Sacrifice?
Do you want to avoid work that's difficult, tiring, stressful or boring in favor of the easy, relaxing and interesting work?
Well, of course you do. So does everybody else.
Most people choose the easy path, the one that avoids voluntary study, working late, coming in early, applying self-discipline, and seeking new challenges that force growth. Instead they spend their spare time watching TV, socializing with friends and going to the gym.
Of course there's nothing wrong with that. It's their life to live as they choose. Or to waste.
Those who take the easy path would like the extraordinary life, the big house, a great salary, a thin and toned body and a job where they get to do what interests them. But they aren't willing to make any meaningful sacrifices to get it. So they unwittingly push their dreams out of reach, and forgo their potential.
It's such a waste. By sacrificing just some of their time outside work, watching a little less TV, spending a little less time socializing, they could have radically improved their life. They had a dream life that waiting for them, just there for the taking. But as they continually neglect the pursuit of their dreams, those dreams edge out of reach, leaving a mediocre life that's comfortable, but one tenth of what it could have been. A life that's merely 'okay'.
Are you making the same mistake? Are you betraying yourself and your potential?
Here's how to tell. In the past year, how many times have you come in an hour early for work, or worked past 8pm? How many hundreds of hours have you spent voluntarily learning new skills and gaining new knowledge since you finished school/college? Has your salary doubled in the past five years? Is your job more senior than it was four years ago?
If the answers are disheartening, it's time you realized that the success to which you aspire is always going to be a pipe dream, unless you buckle down and make some sacrifices.
Hell, isn't your dream worth that sacrifice?
If your not the sort of person that is willing to make significant sacrifices to make your dream life a reality, this blog isn't really suitable for you. You're not serious about success.
If you are the sort of person who says they're willing to make sacrifices, it's time I called your bluff. What are you going to give up, in order to make your dream a reality, starting from today. How much extra time will you spend each day learning new skills and gaining new knowledge? How many extra hours will you be spending at work, to get on top of your workload, speed your delivery of results, and turn the quality of your work from 'good' to 'fantastic'?
Don't be gutless, here. A sacrifice has to made, whether you like it or not. Either you're to sacrifice the big opulent house, great salary, fit sexy body and the fantastic life, you dream of having. Or you're to sacrifice things that aren't even in the same league of importance to you, things you enjoy but that don't really matter.
You've got to sacrifice one or the other. You can't have both. You will frequently kid yourself that you can, but a quick glance at your previous attempts to have both will confirm that it's not been possible. A quick calculation of the yearly cost (in time, money, etc) of your 'enjoyable activity' will show that your 'harmless' activity seriously impacts your ability to reach your desired goal, that it slows you down significantly.
Visualize the activity you'll be cutting back or giving up, and put it side by side with your dream. Which will you choose? Which matters most? You can't have both. So which will you sacrifice?
That put things in perspective. The decision of which to sacrifice is simple and it's necessary.
So, get a piece of paper, and write down the following,
By sacrificing I'll make the following goal a reality for me:
... by the following date:
To help me achieve this, I'm going to give up the following activity/past-time/hobby:
And this one:
I'm going to reclaim the following number of hours / dollars I spend on these activities each year:
I'm going to spend this much time / money learning new skills and gaining new knowledge including the following topics that will help me reach my goal:
I'm going to spend this much extra time at work:
I will put in the extra time to turn the quality of my work from 'good' to 'fantastic' on these tasks that await me:
I'm going to volunteer to do the following tasks that will stretch my abilities and force me to grow:
I'm going to make these changes, starting right now.
If you haven't got a piece of paper in front of you with the above on it, STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING, and get one RIGHT NOW. You need to commit yourself, on paper, to what you're going to do. A vague aspiration in your head (that you'll forget about) just won't cut it.
Pick up a pen, write the commitment. Then sign it. If you're committed to making the sacrifice, you'll be willing to sign a written commitment to make it. If not willing to write a simple commitment, the chances that you'll be willing to make the sacrifice are minimal. You'll just drift, continually sacrificing your opportunities to realize your dream, in favor of enjoyable time-wasting. But, hey, it's your life to fuck up.
If you haven't got a written commitment in front of you, within the next three minutes, I don't want you to ever return to this web site.
December 20, 2004 in Attitude, Change, Getting Things Done | Permalink
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This is my first visit to this website. I really like it. This blog just tells it like it is. People must sacrifice to be successful in life. Those that don't want to sacrifice just sit around being lazy and complain about how life dealt them a 'bad hand'. I put in alot of hours working. I own 2 small, but successful businesses. I have to make time for my family also. I had to give up some things to be where I am. A full night's sleep for one, but everyday I see success in my businesses and it makes it worth it.
Posted by: Petrina Supler | Dec 6, 2006 4:04:27 AM
hey! i am Natasha i am only 13 m in school and i visited this blog just as to see how much did i sacrifice for my life to get success and the result came that i sacrifice 0.00% to get success m just too now good in studies but now when i read this blog it helped me a lot and now i am filling as i am going to achieve and all the goals that i set up for my dreams m gonna change them in reality in my mind one more thing is going on that there in one bad aura which tells us not to do the particular thing and will take us to a side where everything is i mean fun..watching T.V , social networking on sites , playing , hanging out...and no time to studies because after all children think that its bore but i say i find something interesting because its not just learning but after all we are getting information about a particular thing .its not that doing all these things are band or prohibited but its good to sacrifice these things because after all when we will be successful person we will get everything :-HAPPINESS , WEALTH , HEALTH , FUN.But just imagine if you will keep on wasting your life like if you got F GRADE you aren't still working for it then what will be our condition when we will grow up its simply fucking up your life and we know too that its not gonna help us , at early childhood only if good habits are gonna happen then when someone will ask you for a challenge you simply have to say"UH , CHALLENGE? PHEW...I CAN TAKE IT ,I LIKE TO TAKE CHALLENGES" and if you are a bad person u r still busy just wasting your life like if you are still believing in keeping a bf's or gf's i ask you!....IS IT HELPING YOU FROM ANY SIDE??...no its not its just because you want to show yourself stylish 'cause you find it as cool or something but dude i tell you its simply wastage of our time in front of us...its BOGUS in my view if you still think that this site just simply sucks then why are you reading it??....GET LOST AND NEVER EVER COME BACK TO THIS SITE AND JUST FORGET READING MY COMMENT "ITS YOUR LIFE FUCK IT UP , SUCK IT UP...and GO TO HELL!!!!
Posted by: Natasha | May 24, 2008 7:48:59 AM
hey natasha i liked your spirit you should write a book u will get cool success u r hard working kid it seems i liked your comment...and now i am gonna do as you and this blog said....ttyl.lotsa luv rachael!
Posted by: rachael | May 24, 2008 8:53:34 AM
this blog roxx! i just love it aww yeah!!
Posted by: suzanna | Apr 7, 2009 10:30:01 AM
This blog is awesome! It really helps us know that without sacrificing the stuff we cannot ever get a successful life! I am 19 and i was preparing myself for SAT from past five years! In my school i was not so popular as everyone use to think that i am a book worm and i can do nothing except reading the books or solving geometry or doing physics numerical!It use to hurt a lot but still i didn't lose hope and i kept on sacrificing the things which i used to like! i loved watching T.V and sitting in front of it like a lama or being a couch potato! i am from a texas and i knew my parents were passing through real tough financial crisis but still they wanted me to go to school and college and graduate myself well so that i can get a good job when i grow up and so that i cannot face the same problems as they faced!it was really very hurting when my friends or some miss populars used to tease me! I started working as a typist and i used to earn $10 per hour and that's how i started collecting money! i started doing that job when i was only 13 because if we want to go to harvard or yale we should have atleast thousand bugs in our wallet! but i studied real hard i forgot about my friends, i forgot about my looks , my apparel everything because that time my aim was to get in harvard somehow! and i feel very proud to say that i secured very good marks in physics and math but in chemistry i wasn't able to give my best but it was also not my worst! and NOW I AM studying in YALE UNIVERISTY and i love this life! so never ever give up! and it doesnt matter what people say! when life starts making sense the world is upside down again! you get what you want by giving it away!
thank you god!
love,
katie rhodes! :)
Posted by: katie | May 15, 2009 7:49:11 AM